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Why Fairy Tale Romances are a set up for Disappointment

Little girls (and boys) have been grown on watching fairy tales and being told bedtime stories of a damsel in distress, a knight in shining armour coming to her rescue and the infamous “…and they lived happily ever after.”

Its great that in an effort to preserve a child’s innocence we paint a picture of a perfect world for them (it is my assumption that that is the intention). The real world is just too much for a child to have to handle and try to comprehend. However, there comes a time when we, the ones who filled their heads with perfect endings to perfect love stories, need to let them know that it is not so in the world of 9+ billion.
The chances of a woman finding a man that knows exactly what she wants and her heart’s desires without prior interaction is slim. So too is the likelihood if your first kiss causing your leg to pop and you living in “honeymoon bliss”  for the rest of your life or a man finding a perfectly untainted woman in this day and age.

Rare strand of naivety 

Nobody lives blissfully unaware of the world around them. This is 2015. The internet is here to stay. The entire expanse of the world has now become a click away. We are all living on one street. If children grow up believing in these stories and the personas presented, we are creating adults for a world that no longer exists. Additionally, no one is completely numb to the onslaughts of raging hormones (children wouldn’t necessarily know this, but only a few fairy tale characters are outside the range of fertility).

Soft “Tough” shells are no longer in production

Many characters in fairly tales (protagonists mainly) have undergone some amount of hardship, ill-treatment, “oppression” – if I might. And for years, it seems. After being rescued from their dilemma/ predicament, they carry on with a carefree life to live happily ever after. While it is great for our children to grow with optimism, what are the odds of our child being faced with real hardship and coming out not being ‘jaded’ to some degree? Hmmm? Tell me.

The Love Trump Card

Fairy Tales portray love as the solution to every problem. I mean, what can’t love fix? Its like the “world peace” answer in beauty pageants. But the sad reality is, love doesn’t fix every problem. If that was the case, I’d love-out the unemployment in Jamaica right about now. Love isn’t going to pay your JPSco (utility) bill or put food on your table 😦 but true.

In the end, when the truth comes out we have made ourselves out to be liars. Children look up to us and believe what we tell them. My grandma promised me a Barbie laptop that I saw in a magazine (which she never saw) and for years after I had outgrown such pink stuff, I still believed she would find it and get it for me.

When I was told as a child that we hear thunder when God is angry, I believed. But I learned the truth. I look at that as a lie even though it was probably told to me to avoid the long scientific explanation. It was a lie (from the pit of hell…lol). If you don’t want to be made out to be a liar, simply tell them the truth about your fairy tales (that it’s not true).

Or you can have a mindset like mine where everything is the truth and a lie at the same time 😉

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Lost Soul or Heart of Stone?

So I had promised to tell you about a woman I know, my friend actually. I had stated in my previous post that she would be the female version of a womanizer but that was just a loose statement. For clarity let me start with parameters for this post. I am taking the word womanizer to mean a man who pursues women lecherously (waits patiently as you Google the meaning of that). Since I am referring to a woman I meant a woman that does the same to men. The closest word I came to such conveyance was vamp, a woman who uses sexual attraction to exploit men. Some persons would use more derogatory words to refer to such acts but I look at it with the mindset that men and women are equal and what is good for the goose is good for the gander! So she treats men the way men treat women – as disposable.

Glad that’s out of the way!

Now to the good stuff!

*Lisa was tired. Tired of being hurt. Tired of feeling used – used by the men she trusted. Its almost as if Mother Nature or her survival instincts made the decision for her. Going through the lengthy grieving process would take too long. Nothing would work faster than revenge. But not revenge on the specific individuals that hurt her; revenge on men generally!

But who would be the first victim. Without even knowing what she was doing, Lisa had selected the first victim. Perfect profile, complete stranger, clean slate! Of course *Jeremy had no idea what he was getting into. Lisa was hot, naturally born with the body of gym-babe, great smile and the perfect mix of mystery, Lisa is a catch. Damn, Lisa is a 10 (btw I am heterosexual for all of you who have begun to wonder). Which guy wouldn’t want her? Besides, Jeremy, being a foreigner, wasn’t popular with the local ladies.

Moments after meeting, Lisa planted the bomb and asked Jeremy out on a date when he called. Without even realising it then Lisa had begun to THINK and ACT like a man. From the get-go she knew that she wouldn’t be emotionally connected to this guy and she just wanted some ‘ass’ cuz that’s what men do when they approach an attractive female, right? Goal #1 is to get some.

So calculating everything on the date, ensuring to pay attention and act like she was interested in what he was interested in, throwing a few careless compliments here and there, Jeremy must have thought “Wow! What a girl”. Lisa went the extra mile in hiding how annoyed she was with him just existing.

After taking her back to her place and inviting himself in, Jeremy made the mistake of entering Lisa’s bedroom. This just made Lisa more determined, but instead of giving it up on the first date Lisa did the gentlemanly thing to do in the 21st century. She didn’t have sex with the poor unsuspecting, innocent Jeremy but she did make him very much aware of the fact that she wanted his body and would ‘tear it up’ when she ‘got that ass’.

Jeremy, unknowingly, played his role well. He stated his interest in getting to know Lisa first, stated that nothing would happen out of a relationship and that he needed to be in love. Typical girl huh?

As expected, Lisa did all that because men are persistent in the pursuit of some ass. She answered his questions since he wanted to get to know her, made no objections to being introduced as his girlfriend and lied every time with “I love you too”s. She was well on her way!

Then the day came when the work that she had ‘put in’ was going to pay off. There is no way you could have a body like Lisa’s being flaunted in your face every day and not want it. The sex happened. Again and again and again.

Then family started to get involved. Lisa was the hot topic in his family and everyone was happy for him and about her! Then as expected, with all men, Lisa got tired of the bull**** and needed a new conquest. It was simple really: create some shit then break up over it and then on to the next one.

That’s what Lisa did. Cold hearted, yes but understandable too. The innocent always get hurt. Lisa just wanted to protect her heart. She does admit that its never a pleasant situation but that worked faster than the usual grieving process.

*Name changed to protect identity

I am by no means telling anyone to go out and try this. Just wanted to share.

What do you think about Lisa’s situation?