Little girls (and boys) have been grown on watching fairy tales and being told bedtime stories of a damsel in distress, a knight in shining armour coming to her rescue and the infamous “…and they lived happily ever after.”
Its great that in an effort to preserve a child’s innocence we paint a picture of a perfect world for them (it is my assumption that that is the intention). The real world is just too much for a child to have to handle and try to comprehend. However, there comes a time when we, the ones who filled their heads with perfect endings to perfect love stories, need to let them know that it is not so in the world of 9+ billion.
The chances of a woman finding a man that knows exactly what she wants and her heart’s desires without prior interaction is slim. So too is the likelihood if your first kiss causing your leg to pop and you living in “honeymoon bliss” for the rest of your life or a man finding a perfectly untainted woman in this day and age.
Rare strand of naivety
Nobody lives blissfully unaware of the world around them. This is 2015. The internet is here to stay. The entire expanse of the world has now become a click away. We are all living on one street. If children grow up believing in these stories and the personas presented, we are creating adults for a world that no longer exists. Additionally, no one is completely numb to the onslaughts of raging hormones (children wouldn’t necessarily know this, but only a few fairy tale characters are outside the range of fertility).
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Many characters in fairly tales (protagonists mainly) have undergone some amount of hardship, ill-treatment, “oppression” – if I might. And for years, it seems. After being rescued from their dilemma/ predicament, they carry on with a carefree life to live happily ever after. While it is great for our children to grow with optimism, what are the odds of our child being faced with real hardship and coming out not being ‘jaded’ to some degree? Hmmm? Tell me.
The Love Trump Card
Fairy Tales portray love as the solution to every problem. I mean, what can’t love fix? Its like the “world peace” answer in beauty pageants. But the sad reality is, love doesn’t fix every problem. If that was the case, I’d love-out the unemployment in Jamaica right about now. Love isn’t going to pay your JPSco (utility) bill or put food on your table 😦 but true.
In the end, when the truth comes out we have made ourselves out to be liars. Children look up to us and believe what we tell them. My grandma promised me a Barbie laptop that I saw in a magazine (which she never saw) and for years after I had outgrown such pink stuff, I still believed she would find it and get it for me.
When I was told as a child that we hear thunder when God is angry, I believed. But I learned the truth. I look at that as a lie even though it was probably told to me to avoid the long scientific explanation. It was a lie (from the pit of hell…lol). If you don’t want to be made out to be a liar, simply tell them the truth about your fairy tales (that it’s not true).
Or you can have a mindset like mine where everything is the truth and a lie at the same time 😉